The David Alliance
Adapt, change and accelerate

Adapt, change and accelerate

August 7, 2020 Tony Herman - the coolest cat on the net


Adapt, change and accelerate


Nigel Richards The five-time USA National Scrabble Champion. He is called the greatest scrabble champion ever. But there was a problem, he got bored. He heard that Scrabble in french was the hardest to play… so he took the challenge and again won the National French championship. The only problem… he doesn’t speak french. He didn’t care to, he just wanted to compete in the championship. So he simply memorized the french dictionary… in 9 weeks. He memorized it so well he could call out players who were trying to use names and capitols etc… 


You adapt! 


Romans 12:2

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.



1 Now the Lord said to Abram,


"Go forth from your country,

And from your relatives

And from your father's house,

To the land which I will show you;

2 And I will make you a great nation, 

And I will bless you,

And make your name great;

And so you shall be a blessing;

3 And I will bless those who bless you,

And the one who curses you I will curse.

And in you all the families of the earth will be blessed."

-Genesis 12:1-3



Note the change that Abraham had to make. Leave his country and go live in a foreign land that he didn't know. Look at the pain involved in this change.

  • The fear of living in a different culture, language, traditions.
  • The pain of leaving his relatives, his home, his friends behind for good.
  • The risk of leaving the security of his home for the unknown place God was sending him to.

Look at the blessings associated with this change.

  • His name and family would be great.
  • God would give him many descendants.
  • The world would be blessed through him.

Abraham considered the change and examined the pain and decided that the blessings were worth it. Today, Abraham is called the father of all those who have faith, as Paul says in Gal. 3:7:


Oh and lets not forget that Abraham didn’t even know who God really was. He at the time worshiped other Gods…


Adaptation takes faith,

Trust in God… 

But one more thing that makes it powerful. 

We hate change, we hate adapting… but we all have to. Sickness, job loss, family crisis etc…

But the power behind adapting is doing it when things are good. YES that is where the power really manifests itself. When things are sailing along and you ask God… where should I adapt, Where should I change?


A study on those who adapt and achieve the greatest benefit from it had a major thing in common. They adapted when things were good because they realized that is when they had the greatest energy to adapt and change the easiest, the fastest and with the clearest focus on what to do.


My question for you for this weekend is not where do things hurt and you need change…

But rather, where are things good and you need to adapt and change and make them even better.


Distracted, Disappointed and Determined

Distracted, Disappointed and Determined

August 6, 2020 Tony Herman - the coolest cat on the net


What are they doing

Where are they going

What if I don’t make it

what are they saying

what did they say about me

What if I never make it

who heard it

why did they do that

what if that happens

what if that doesn’t happen

What if they think that

what if they talk to him or her

What if they believe that

What if i don’t succeed

What if I always fail

What if they see my failures

What I never get there

What about my family 


There are so many things that can derail our spiritual walks… but probably the easiest is just simply distraction. 


Life is filled with 

Who, what’s why’s how’s and when’s…. 

It can drive you nuts and derail you if you let it!


Attention is the fuel to the spiritual life. Daniel Koulendis 



How many things have you read on social media where people want to argue a point… any point, any topic, any side, any issue… blah blah blah


But the point is simply People need Jesus.


Maybe your distracted by your goals…

Maybe your distracted by not achieving your goals.

Probably you are distracted by other people and problems.


in the Book Barking up the wrong tree… author Eric Barker states that the American culture has increasingly emphasized high expectations and following your dreams… things that when you are young you feel like you can achieve anything… rock star, millionaire, business mogul, movie star…

He goes to state “we are slowly learning that fact - that we won’t. And we are very pissed off”. 


Disappointment and distraction are the two biggest spiritual killers…

But what if I told you God judges success by who you are and not what you do. WHO YOU ARE? Are you a man of God? Then you are a success! 


3 step plan to be a successful man of God.

  -1  Read and pray everyday

  -2  Pray for someone every day… pray with them.

  -3  Share the gospel every day with someone. 


You will quickly be more excited about what God is doing through you than what you can do on your own. You will realize success in Gods eyes is far more important and far more satisfying than success in the eyes of the world. 


Research shows us that the superior athletes are 87% introverts… 


and are not considered “disciplined” as much as they just stick to the plan. 


Most super Christians are not outgoing or super disciplined… they just stick to the plan. Read and Pray, Pray for others and share the gospel. 


John G. Lake one of the greatest healing evangelists in the last 100 years… 

Diseases instantly healed

Arms and legs twisted up in knots unwind and people run for the first time

My favorite a woman who was healed and Pastor Lake said “Go get a doctors report stating you are healed to show the skeptic”. She said, well I will but I can’t read… he said “come here”. He laid his hands on her and instantly this woman could read. 

When you read what he calls his daily secret formula it simply this…

Read and Pray every day

Pray for others (for all their needs, physical, financial, mental, emotional etc…) 

and Share the gospel.


5000 Faithful

5000 Faithful

August 5, 2020 Tony Herman - the coolest cat on the net


After interviewing 5000 of the most successful people in the world… What are the 4 things that almost all successful people have in common? Would you believe that the bible already tells us what they are?


Hebrews 11:1 Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.


Faith is the Confidence… you actually start believing by putting time and effort ACTION behind what you believe.


You don’t just believe it, you act on it. You start to study business… you may not even know what kind of business you are going to start… BUT faith is the confidence… so that means you start to study what state is the best state to start a business. When you date someone you ask them if they would mind if their husband ran his own business and even went bankrupt and started over, or if he had to put in long hours… your FAITH is action even before you get there. 


What we HOPE FOR: To be filled with joy and confidence that no matter what happens you still keep working the plan and you know that you are getting closer, you are learning, its all joyful because in the end it will make sense.


You start a business… it starts off with a bang… you have people rip you off, lie about you, it sputters and you lose everything… but deep inside you are joyful knowing that God has taught you some valuable lessons. You have more insight and more connections for the next business you start. 


Assurance: Proof. God will give you proof for the future direction. 

Someone comes and asks you to work for them… it’s not what you had expected - you want to run your own business… but God says do it. In a few years you become the VP and the owner wants to sell you the business. You buy it and it becomes even more successful, the lessons you learned now prove again and again Gods faithfulness. 


Proof of what we do not see:

We will discern how our practice, our perseverance our time under tension will pay off.


Now here is the kicker… all of this happens in our mind by faith before we ever even take our first step toward starting a business.


How do I know that… well this verse speaks of it pretty clearly, but Paul goes on to give about example after examples of men who lived this out.

Enoch, Noah, Jacob, Joseph, Moses, Gideon, Barak, Samson, Jephthah, David and Samuel and the prophets


Study their lives and they all believed the plan God had for them but had to live it out. 


When I started lifting weights as a Frosh in high school I could only see me doing 225… but then I could see myself doing 315, and then I could see myself doing 400 and even 500… but I was still only a Frosh doing 185. But I worked at it, I studied, I lifted, I asked lots of questions, I listened to my coach, I failed many times… and I finally did 585 in competition… and it only took 38 years to do it. What if I had given up?

What if I had given up on playing the guitar?

My marriage?

My business?

My health?


Faith says I see where I am to be, I see myself going there and working the faith plan, I see myself failing and moving forward, I see myself there! 


So what about those 5000 successful people… what were the 4 things they all had.

in their heart they believed they were meant for greatness

They all felt like they knew what direction God was calling them in

They all lived with expectancy… even in failure

They all lived with urgency

Love Gone bad

Love Gone bad

August 4, 2020 Tony Herman - the coolest cat on the net


You lost that loving feeling… whoa that loving feeling, you lost that loving feeling now its gone gone gone ooohhhh oooohhhh



Shout out to Edward, Pete, Rick and Debbie


1 Kings 11:11 King Solomon, however, loved many foreign women besides Pharaoh’s daughter—Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Sidonians and Hittites. They were from nations about which the Lord had told the Israelites, “You must not intermarry with them, because they will surely turn your hearts after their gods.” Nevertheless, Solomon held fast to them in love. He had seven hundred wives of royal birth and three hundred concubines, and his wives led him astray. As Solomon grew old, his wives turned his heart after other gods, and his heart was not fully devoted to the Lord his God, as the heart of David his father had been.

So Solomon did evil in the eyes of the Lord; he did not follow the Lord completely, as David his father had done.


The wisest man in the world and richest and most admired…

Samson… fell away because of what he loved…

David fell to lust…

Jacob was suckered into marrying Leah due to his love for Rachel

Then there were todays heroes.







and unfortunately so many more…


But it’s not just women that causes us to fall in love…


There is money

Or maybe just the hunt of making money and deals and advancing in our careers 

MAYBE we are in love with adrenaline

Maybe we love alcohol, partying, drugs

Maybe we are in love with sports, hobbies, hunting fishing…

Or maybe we are in love with our families… they come first at any cost!


What is it you love?


 Eph. 2: Yet I hold this against you: You have forsaken the love you had at first.


The Church of Ephesians was doing everything right… God even says it right there in verses 2,3

2I know your deeds, your labor, and your perseverance. I know that you cannot tolerate those who are evil, and you have tested and exposed as liars those who falsely claim to be apostles. 3Without growing weary, you have persevered and endured many things for the sake of My name. 


So it’s possible to live for God whole heartedly and not LOVE God whole heartedly…


*That should be the wake up call of all wake up calls.


Matthew 7:21 21 “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. 22 On that day many will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’ 23 And then will I declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness.’


So you can have the power, the works, the looks, the track record, the admiration, the perseverance, the church attendance, The prophetic gifts that grew others in Christ, the family and even the tally card of how many demons you have cast out…. but without LOVE….


Its all over the bible


Corinthians 13

13 If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned,[a] but have not love, I gain nothing.


Men the goal is not to die with the most toys… its not to die with having led the most people to Christ… its not even dying a sinless life in pure and complete holiness

Its simply this…

Dying in love… in love with the Savior Jesus Christ! 

Affair proof Wedlock

Affair proof Wedlock

August 3, 2020 Tony Herman - the coolest cat on the net



Average cost of a wedding for two… 28K

Average cost of a divorce for two… 30K

But that doesn’t take into affect, child support, alimony, time spent now and in the future, cost of housing and traveling with kids not in your house… and about 20 other things… 

It is truly easier, cheaper and more rewarding to stay married.


*Reminder: Affairs don’t start because you want sex… they start because your emotional needs are not being met. So where are the danger zones as married couples… here are the 3 biggest. 


3 Stages of marriage that can lead to an affair

  -  Empty nester - you only had the kids in common. You are strangers when the kids leave.


  -  Intimacy avoidance  -  lots of action, things in common, time together but one of you or both of you are not intimate with who you really are and what you are really dealing with, fearing or your deepest darkest secrets. 

One of the spouses can’t handle honesty (they may feel attacked or discouraged or overwhelmed by their past) so they can’t be intimate with life. 


  -  No conflict marriage  - you stuff everything down, you have no fights, you are roommates…

(you do fight but its in your head by yourself) 

*someone comes along and ignites you and BOOM. 



Final warning when it comes to sexual temptation. 

Nowhere in scripture will you see a verse that says when being tempted sexually you should 

pray more, 

or fast 

or read scripture

Or go to church more

Or memorize the bible

… one solution: RUN! Detach yourself immediately!

Are you being tempted emotionally? Sexually? RUN! Run to your spouse and get honest with her and tell her that you both need to work on your marriage. 

Affair proof  your wedlock 4

Affair proof your wedlock 4

July 31, 2020 Tony Herman - the coolest cat on the net


1 Cor. 7:Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command. 


*Marital duty GK: Of - i - lay -

* Fulfill  GK: (ap-od-eed'-o-mee)

render what is due your spouse… this word is used to describe the betrayal of Jesus by Judas… he did not fulfill his duty as a disciple. it has a strong cadence to it. 


This word means to direct ones mind to that subject, to think on them, to understand them, to know them.

FULL DEFINITION: You study what your husband or wife needs and you try to fulfill it physically, emotionally, mentally etc…



Remember the bucket? if you live in a relationship that does not have these 3 things met…




Affirmation     > ARE UNMET! 



You are kidding yourselves thinking you are immune to an affair… you can’t hold these very long on your own… 


But if you ask your spouse to help you hold the bucket with you… you may actually get somewhere. 


If these are not met a person will always be more tempted by satan to fall. 

Its not a sin to be tempted… but it is a sin to cause someone to be tempted! 


  -  1 Cor. 7 You not fulfilling your vows to your spouse leads them into temptation

  -  Mark 9 whoever causes a child to sin

  -  Satan tempted Jesus…

  -  And GOD cannot tempt us… and he is our example! 


So with that being said - 

So if you by your behavior are tempting your spouse OR CAUSING THEM TO BE TEMPTED

you need to repent and ask God to help you fulfill their emotional needs.


And if it is your spouse who needs to repent then it is probably both of you who need to repent. 

Affair proof your wedlock

Affair proof your wedlock

July 30, 2020 Tony Herman - the coolest cat on the net


1 night stand

Entangled friendship…

But the dirty secret that no one wants to talk about is after an affair you have to go to the doctor…


One night stand is not an excuse to have one… remember no matter what type of affair you have you now get to play “what’s my disease”. You must get tested to find out if you have been infected because you do not want to take that into your marriage with out telling your spouse… yeah fun times.


So there are 6 types of sexual affairs:



  -  3  Sexual addiction… it is not about the person, it is about the sexual addiction and drug addiction in the brain and about control. 



  -  4  Add on affair. Great marriage, but you are emotionally drained from a spouse who is more like a roommate. And someone emotionally awakens you, turns you on, pushes your button, lights your fire etc…




  -  5  Reconnection affair. Old BF or GF. You feel young again.




  -  6 Seductive personality pattern. OUR CULTURE HAS GROWN THIS AS AN ACTUAL DEMOGRAPHIC IN OUR COUNTRY!  This one is huge in todays world. The person wants to seduce a married person because they feel like they can fix them, heal them or make them normal. YOU HAVE A PROVEN TRACK RECORD SO THEY GO AFTER YOU! 



The question to ask yourself at this point is…

Are YOU robbing your spouse emotionally from not meeting their needs?

Affair proof your wedlock

Affair proof your wedlock

July 29, 2020 Tony Herman - the coolest cat on the net



So now what?

Psalms 118:8 - [It is] better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in man.


Galatians 6:3 - For if a man think himself to be something, when he is nothing, he deceiveth himself.


Psalm 20:7 

Some trust in chariots and some in horses, but we trust in the name of the Lord our God.


PHil. 3:3 therefore put no confidence in the flesh.

Confidence: Pleitho - the goddess of pleasure… she will persuade you! 





You either admit it to your spouse or you continue to feed that relationship and rob your marriage of your emotions, attention, maybe money and definitely character.


  ** Why would you tell your spouse? 

All emotional affairs are 2 sided. One spouse is not giving their partner the emotional energy they need… they may or may not realize it. *And it can go both ways!



So if you feed it and ignore the warning signs…


Sexual affair! 


So there are 6 types of sexual affairs:


  -  1 One night stand - alcohol is almost always involved. Out of town, at a hotel… drinking at a bar… 

*Guilt, remorse, anger… but it is the easiest to overcome. 


  -  2 Entangled friendship: Like we said… Admiration, desire and Focus… sexual encounter! 


There is a seed of emotion and it gets planted and you purposefully start to water it.

Affair Proof your Wedlock!

Affair Proof your Wedlock!

July 28, 2020 Tony Herman - the coolest cat on the net


99% of Affairs do not happen due to someone wanting sex… They happen when emotions are aroused that are not being nurtured or met. 



Most emotional affairs blindside you…3 WAYS


First there is admiration - builds a mood altering experience.


Second you start to desire to be around them because they change your mood.


Third your day is FOCUSED  ON fighting the mental desire to always think of them… you become more mentally entangled:

  -  What if I had married them or they married me?

  -  How much my life would be better?

  -  If my spouse dies I would marry them?





(*Outside of a 1 night stand)


The first affair is always about these 2 things:

Comfort and Distraction. 


LADIES: Why do men like seductive clothing on women?

Comfort and distraction… 

A guy can be having he worst day in the world until a set of boobies comes along! 

Are you (regardless of married or single) feeding a mans weakness by how you dress!  






50% of all first time affairs happen during pregnancy or during the first year of the birth of the child. WHY?

A pregnant or nursing mom is a volcano of oxytocin, dopamine, phenylthylamine, endorphins etc… 


The husband is feeling aroused and neglected.


During sex when the wife is into it, responsive, affectionate… 


You can have sex and not bond and it is frustrating to the husband. 



Adolescences 3

Adolescences 3

July 27, 2020 Tony Herman - the coolest cat on the net



why difficult teenagers have problems

  1. they have poor family hierarchy- the kids Have more power than the parents. 
  2. parents turn to outside sources for help i.e. police, social workers, counselors, judges, medication. But in doing so they give up and undermine their authority and effectiveness. 
  3. an adolescents behavior is many times an attempt, whether conscious or unconscious, to shift the families attention away from a more threatening problem like divorce, drug abuse, alcoholism, depression, as long as the focus remains on the cover up problem the real problem is ignored. 
  4. 4. A teen acts on the pleasure principle. Whatever feels good immediately they do, and are willing to put up with the consequences later.
  5. 5.difficult adolescents have the ability to think two steps ahead so they can unravel rules and consequences before you ever get to them? 
  6. 6. They are more skillful than there parents at confrontations. They know how to push there parents buttons. When the parent loses control then the adolescent has the authority.

 The five aces a student uses to manipulate a parent is: running away, truancy, poor school performance, disrespect, suicidal tendencies. 


Why are we at where we are at in society? Young people looting, rioting, destroying things with no fear of consequences… 

There is an old saying that will explain this: The teachers are afraid of the principal, the principal is afraid of the school superintendent, the superintendent is afraid of the parents, the parents are afraid of the teenagers and the teenagers aren’t afraid of anyone.


Parents gave up control… and now the monkeys are running the cities and again adults are afraid to say no. 


What does scripture say? Train up a child in the way he should go and he will not depart from it… so if we don’t train up a child in the way he should go he will go anywhere and do anything and never quit being a child… adulthood has escaped him by lack of training.


*The lesson? Parents… your kids don’t need you to be their friend, they need you to be their parent!